THE CORNER 4 WOMEN

Thursday 12 October 2023

MY WORLD by Partha Pratim Dey

"MY WORLD"
by Partha Pratim Dey

In the depths of my heart, a river flows,

Misty and grey, over stones it goes.

I sit and watch, as the shadows fade,

And the sun ascends, a fiery blade.

Beyond the veil of death I see,

Life's vibrant dance, wild and free.

All bathed in white, under the sun,

My world, ever-changing, yet always one.

On weary feet, I return once more,

To my solitude, where songs of sorrow pour.

In the endless flames, my sleepless eyes burn,

My conscience scorched, beneath the sun's stern turn.

But beyond the veil of death I see,

Life's vibrant dance, wild and free.

All bathed in white, under the sun,

My world, ever-changing, yet always one.

My world, my strange and wondrous world,

Where joy and pain, in endless dance are twirled.

My world, my fragile, precious world,

Where life's sweet symphony, is forever unfurled.

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WHY DO PEOPLE PAY FOR PIANO LESSONS?

"WHY DO PEOPLE PAY FOR PIANO LESSONS?"
(author unknown)

So why do people actually pay for piano lessons?

The answer is….they don’t pay for piano lessons. They pay for so much more.

- They pay for their child to learn what it takes to commit to something meaningful;

- They pay so that their child can learn the magic of creation, of forming something beautiful using their hands;

- They pay so that their child recognises the power of discipline, of working at something consistently, at least five days per week, honing their skills and building their fluency;

- They pay so that their child understands not to quit when the novelty has worn off and the work must set in;

- They pay so their child learns that they must still put in the work, even when tired and grumpy, not just giving up and spending hours on TikTok;

- They pay so that they can learn the joy of creating music with others: listening intently, and learning to chop, change and compromise;

- They pay so that they realise that it’s not just “enjoying themselves” but working meticulously on small details;

- They pay so that they DO enjoy themselves;

- They pay so that their child creates neural pathways that impact every single area of the curriculum;

- They pay so that their child develops the most incredible fine motor skills;

- They pay so that their child sees that art can be transcendent, and can accompany us through our darkest times;

- They pay because music puts us in touch with something that can’t be otherwise expressed.

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Tuesday 10 October 2023

6 KEYS TO A GREAT RELATIONSHIP

"6 KEYS TO A GREAT RELATIONSHIP" (author unknown)

1. FRIENDSHIP:

Try to be your spouse best friend. No matter what happens, be a friend first, and a lover later.

2. TRUST:

The key element to any relationship is trust, so before starting this beautiful journey with your spouse, learn to trust in all circumstances.

3. UNDERSTANDING:

Try to figure out each other and work out on your differences. There are going to be many differences, but it’s mutual compromise and sacrifice which makes this relationship beautiful.

4. COMMUNICATION:

Try to talk and convey your message to your spouse. Let your spouse know about how good/bad your day was along with reminding them how you feel for them.

5. HONESTY:

Always speak the truth, never lie or hide things in fear that your spouse won’t understand. Give your spouse a chance to understand you.

6. FREEDOM:

Give your spouse space and freedom to decide for themselves. Don’t take away the personal time of your spouse.

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TWO WOMEN ON A TRAIN by Chima Dickson

"TWO WOMEN ON A TRAIN"

by Chima Dickson

Two middle-aged women sat next to each other on a train. One was in a very good mood, but the other was sad and depressed. The cheerful woman who was having fun reading a book, started laughing as she read something amusing.

Meanwhile, the sad woman became filled with envy seeing how cheerful the other woman was. She said to her.

"You seem to be having such a great time... How I wish I could be happy as you are. But sadly, life isn't fair to everyone"

The cheerful woman closed her book and spoke very gently.

"I'm terribly sorry for what you're going through right now. If you need to talk about it, I'm here for you"

At that moment, the sad woman heaved a sigh, then opened up to her.

"I have a child with a disability. It's so difficult to deal with the feelings of shame, guilt, hopelessness and depression. I wish I could change everything. It just hurts a lot"

When the cheerful woman saw that the sad woman had started crying, she consoled her.

"This must be so hard for you. But it always helps to look on the bright side of life. It's a choice you'll never regret"

Then the sad woman said.

"Unless you are raising a child with a disability, you don't understand the pain I go through everyday. The pain of loosing all hopes and dreams you have for your child. You don't understand because you're such a lucky woman"

The cheerful woman became quiet afterwards. Shortly, she reached her destination and got off the train. A few moments after she had left, the sad woman noticed a piece of paper carefully placed beside her. She read it.

"From the cheerful lady seated next to you. I just want you to know that I have three disabled children, and I understand three times the pain you feel. The only difference between the two of us is that I have accepted my reality".

Many of us are still sad and depressed because we avoid facing facts and refuse to accept reality. We always want to change our current situation and in that way, we get consumed by negative emotions- such as; guilt, shame, bitterness, frustration, hopelessness, irritations, etc. The truth is that, we can't change everything in our lives, no matter how hard we try. And the moment we realize that certain things will remain the way they are and should be accepted, we will be happy humans in the world. Learn to accept your own reality and see the big difference it would make in your life.

Author: Chima_Dickson Official

I let my stories teach the life lessons.

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Monday 9 October 2023

AND SON, WE WERE NEVER BORED

"AND SON, WE WERE NEVER BORED"
(author unknown)

I grew up on a Council Estate and never once questioned my parents income, it was never a discussion.

We didn't eat a lot of fast food because it was considered a treat, not a food group.

We ate homemade meals consisting of meat, potatoes and vegetables - (which were not an optional choice). No vegetables, no dessert!!!

We grew up during a time when we mowed lawns, pulled weeds, babysat, helped neighbours with chores to be able to earn our own money.

We by no means were given everything we wanted.

We went outside a lot to play, ride bikes, run with friends, play hide and seek, or went swimming.

We rarely just sat inside.

Bottled water was unheard of.

If we had a coke, it was in a glass bottle and we didn’t break the bottle when finished.

We saved it and cashed it back in at the shops for a sweet.

After school, we came home and did homework and chores, before going outside or having friends over.

We would ride our bikes for hours.

We had to tell our parents where we were going, who we were going with and be home when the street lights came on!

You LEARNED from your parents instead of disrespecting them and treating them as if they knew absolutely nothing.

What they said was LAW and you did not question it and you had better know it!

We watched what we said around our elders because we knew if we DISRESPECTED any grown-up, we would get a real telling off, it wasn't called abuse, it was called discipline!

We held doors, carried the shopping and gave up our seat for an older person without being asked.

You didn't hear swear words on the radio in songs or TV.

“Please and Thank you", were part of our daily vocabulary!

The world we live in now is just so full of people who hate and disrespect others.

Consider Re-posting if you're thankful for your childhood.

I will never forget where I came from and only wish children nowadays had half the chance at the fun and respect for real life we grew up with!

And son "we were never bored".

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Speaking More Words With My Fingers

"Speaking more words with my fingers" (author unknown)

It was the same street, the same smell from the bakery/coffee shop at the side of the park. I’ve walked on the pavement thousands of times, yet it doesn’t feel the same anymore as how it was when I was seventeen.

Maybe it was me who had changed. I’m no longer soft nor that I still believe that mere love would cure all sufferings in this world. Gone was the cheery girl who held hope and dreams in her heart, as the cold and more solitary girl took over the wheel.

It wasn’t always like this. Long ago, I viewed the world in a kaleidoscope of colours too as I wrote beautiful thoughts in my journals – yet life hurled lesson after lesson at me, some were sweet, most were made from stones and thorns.

So here I am. Speaking more words with my fingers than my tongue. At least I know now that even when the world has turned me voiceless, it could never render me wordless.

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A WISE MAN ONCE SAID

"A WISE MAN ONCE SAID" (author unknown)

1. Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your call, presume they have something important to attend to;

2. Return money that you have borrowed even before the person that borrowed you remember or ask for it. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with umbrellas, pens and lunch boxes.

3. Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is giving you a lunch/dinner.

4. Don’t ask awkward questions like ‘Oh so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ Or why don't you buy a car? For God’s sake it isn’t your problem;

5. Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, senior or junior. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public;

6. If you take a taxi with a friend and he/she pays now, try paying next time;

7. Respect different shades of opinions. Remember what's 6 to you will appear 9 to someone facing you. Besides, second opinion is good for an alternative;

8. Never interrupt people talking. Allow them to pour it out. As they say, hear them all and filter them all;

9. If you tease someone, and they don’t seem to enjoy it, stop it and never do it again. It encourages one to do more and it shows how appreciative you're;

10. Say “thank you” when someone is helping you.

11. Praise publicly. Criticize privately;

12. There’s almost never a reason to comment on someone’s weight. Just say, “You look fantastic.” If they want to talk about losing weight, they will;

13. When someone shows you a photo on their phone, don’t swipe left or right. You never know what’s next;

14. If a colleague tells you they have a doctors' appointment, don’t ask what it’s for, just say "I hope you’re okay". Don’t put them in the uncomfortable position of having to tell you their personal illness. If they want you to know, they'll do so without your inquisitiveness;

15. Treat the cleaner with the same respect as the CEO. Nobody is impressed at how rude you can treat someone below you but people will notice if you treat them with respect;

16. If a person is speaking directly to you, staring at your phone is rude;

17. Never give advice until you’re asked;

18. When meeting someone after a long time, unless they want to talk about it, don’t ask them their age and salary;

19. Mind your business unless anything involves you directly - just stay out of it;

20. Remove your sunglasses if you are talking to anyone in the street. It is a sign of respect. More so, eye contact is as important as your speech; and

21. Never talk about your riches in the midst of the poor. Similarly, don't talk about your children in the midst of the barren.

22.After reading a good message try to say "Thanks for the message".

APPRECIATION remains the easiest way of getting what you don't have....

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"LITTLE TRICKS TO FALL ASLEEP WHEN YOUR MIND IS OVERACTIVE"

Staying in bed when experiencing sleep difficulties can be counterproductive, according to Rebecca Robbins, PhD, an associate scientist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital and instructor in medicine at Harvard Medical School. By remaining in bed and tossing and turning, we condition our brains to associate the bed with insomnia rather than sleep. Falling asleep immediately upon lying down is uncommon, so don't become anxious if sleep doesn't come right away. It typically takes about 15 minutes for a well-rested person to fall asleep. However, if you find yourself fixating on your inability to sleep, that's the moment to get out of bed and restart the process.

Dr. Robbins suggests engaging in mindless activities, such as folding laundry or reading from a dull book, when unable to sleep. It is essential to avoid screens and bright lights as they can negatively impact sleep. Additionally, certain daytime behaviours can affect sleep, such as consuming excessive caffeine, eating dinner too close to bedtime, or engaging in high-intensity workouts before bed.

Dr. Robbins also acknowledges that experiencing sleep difficulties is normal, especially given the current pandemic we continue to be experiencing. It is important to accept this fact and realize that the following day may be challenging due to fatigue. Sleep should come more easily the next night.

Here are some additional tips for dealing with sleep difficulties:

Carve out time in the evening to worry: Instead of worrying in bed, create a separate time and space to address your concerns. Write down your worries or make a to-do list for the next day to create cognitive space between you and your worries.

Use paradoxical intention:

Focus on staying awake rather than trying to fall asleep. By reducing the pressure to sleep, it becomes more likely that sleep will occur naturally.

Practice the "cognitive shuffle": This technique involves thinking of a random object with at least five letters and then coming up with as many words as possible that start with each letter. Visualizing the objects helps shift your attention away from anxious thoughts and promotes relaxation.

By following these strategies and understanding the normalcy of occasional sleep difficulties; individuals can improve their sleep patterns and overall well-being

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A PATCHWORK OF YOUR LIFE by Becky Hemsley

"A PATCHWORK OF YOUR LIFE"
(by Becky Hemsley)

Your life is like a quilt

And everybody weaves their share

Some weave huge great tapestries

And some weave tiny squares

Some squares bring you laughter

And some will bring you tears

Some are stitched and sewn by those

Who are no longer here

In places there are threads

From people choosing not to stay

And every time you touch these threads

It brings back all the pain

But every little thread

That weaves its joy and pain and fun

Has stitched a quilt together

Of the person you’ve become

And every little tiny part

Has slowly taught you how

To weave your contribution

Into the blanket you have now

So I know there are squares that comfort you

And some that you dislike

But without them all you wouldn’t have

This patchwork of your life

*******

Becky Hemsley 2020

Image created with Bing

From the book Talking to the Wild

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THE CORNER 4 WOMEN

Thursday 12 October 2023

MY WORLD by Partha Pratim Dey

WHY DO PEOPLE PAY FOR PIANO LESSONS?

Tuesday 10 October 2023

6 KEYS TO A GREAT RELATIONSHIP

"6 KEYS TO A GREAT RELATIONSHIP" (author unknown)

TWO WOMEN ON A TRAIN by Chima Dickson

Monday 9 October 2023

AND SON, WE WERE NEVER BORED

Speaking More Words With My Fingers

A WISE MAN ONCE SAID

LITTLE TRICKS TO FALL ASLEEP WHEN YOUR MIND IS OVERACTIVE by © John Anthony Elliott 2023

A PATCHWORK OF YOUR LIFE by Becky Hemsley

"CAPABLE CHILDREN" by Brooke Hampton