Wednesday 12 July 2023

EXPECT LESS & ENJOY MORE



EXPECT LESS & ENJOY MORE
(author unknown)
Photograph by Karsten Thormaehlen

This 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home yesterday. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.
After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.
“Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room …. just wait.”
“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged, it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice;
I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away, just for this time in my life.”
She went on to explain, “Old age is like a bank account, you withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing.”
And with a smile, she said: “Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less, & enjoy more of every moment.

 

Monday 10 July 2023

MRS GREENE'S GARDEN


MRS GREENE'S GARDEN
(author unknown)

Mrs. Greene lived on the 52nd floor of a high-rise apartment building. Mrs. Greene barely said a word to anyone and when she did, people privately wished she hadn’t, if you catch my drift.

Mrs. Greene wasn’t known for her lovely demeanour, but she sure was known for her lovely balcony garden that could be seen clearly all the way down on the ground floor.

Mrs. Greene loved to go out onto her balcony and tend to this beautiful garden of hers. And oh my, was it lush, with plants grown from cuttings she’d collected from nearly every garden she’d spent time in over the entirety of her existence.
Directly above Mrs. Greene’s apartment on the 53rd floor, lived Ms. Celia Tolliver and her six year old daughter, Sheila.

Celia Tolliver always wished for a garden like Mrs. Greene’s, but she sighed and settled for the barren slab of concrete that supported the couple chairs and table she’d managed to find the year before discarded on the curb.

Truth was, Celia Tolliver could barely find the time to do much else other than cook, clean, get her child to day care, go to work, pick her child back up, go home, play with her child, have a glass of wine, think about things and try to be grateful for what she did have more than what she didn’t.

One afternoon, Celia Tolliver and her daughter Sheila were out on their balcony enjoying a snack, sharing stories about their day, when her daughter noticed a flower peeking through the slats of the balcony fence. “Look, Mama!”

Her mama leaned down, and sure enough, a most beautiful flower was peeking through, a flower that had grown wild all the way from Mrs. Greene’s garden.
“Now don’t you pick that, Sheila,” her mama said. “That flower still belongs to Mrs. Greene.”

“Oh, Wow! Isn’t Mrs. Greene so kind to share her flowers!?”

Celia Tolliver smiled and kissed her daughter’s head, knowing full well that Mrs. Greene had definitely not shared her flowers on purpose.

This knowledge was culled from the only interaction she’d ever had with Mrs. Greene—the time she’d been so tired and distracted and accidentally got off on the 52nd floor and tried getting into Mrs. Greene’s apartment instead of her own. And though she’d apologized and tried explaining what happened, Mrs. Greene still called the police, insisting she’d been trying to break in.

No, Mrs. Greene was not sharing her flowers.
But she didn’t breathe a word about any of that to her daughter.
.
Time marched on, as it tends to do, and Mrs. Greene’s garden continued to grow. And grow. And grow.

“Why don’t you give some of these flowers away,” asked Mrs. Greene’s nurse who visited a couple times a week. “Before long, there won’t be room for you out here.”

“Why should I? They’re my flowers. The fruits of my labour. If other people want flowers, they should grow their own. I don’t do charity work.”
“Whatever you say, Mrs. Greene.”

“Besides, I enjoy them all.”

“Well, I’m glad to hear you’re finding some enjoyment, Mrs. Greene.”

What Mrs. Greene didn’t know was that her garden had not only grown thick, but it had continued to climb up the building, filling not only Celia Tolliver‘s balcony, but the balcony of the apartment above theirs. In fact, Mrs. Greene’s garden had grown from the 52nd floor all the way up to the 64th.
Not only were Celia Tolliver and Sheila enjoying sitting out on their balcony tending to all those beautiful flowers, but so were the neighbours above them. And above them.

But one afternoon, Sheila looked upset.
“What is it, sweetheart?” her mama asked.
“Well, Mrs. Greene has been so kind to share her flowers…”
“I guess so,” said her mama, smiling.

“And we’ve all been enjoying them, but we haven’t even said thank you to Mrs. Greene. Don’t you think we ought to say thank you, Mommy?
“You have a golden heart, Sheila.”

Celia Tolliver didn’t want to discourage her daughter’s kindness so she asked her daughter what she had in mind.
“I’ve decided I’m going to make her a bouquet!”

“A bouquet?! Don’t you think Mrs. Greene has enough flowers?”
“Yes, Mama, but has she ever received a flower from me? I don’t think so.”
So Sheila got busy making her flower arrangement and then insisted her mama call the neighbours upstairs and get them involved.

And by late afternoon, Celia Tolliver, Sheila, and several other children and their parents gathered on the 52nd floor carrying their armfuls of bouquets.
Sheila knocked on Mrs. Greene’s apartment door and waited as the parents looked at each other, sceptical and worried, hoping for the best.

When Mrs. Greene answered the door and saw all the children holding all those flowers, she looked confused. “You’ve got the wrong apartment,” she barked. But just as she was closing the door, Sheila interrupted.
“No, Mrs. Greene. We wanted to thank you for sharing your garden. We used to not have a single flower to enjoy, but you grew your garden big enough so we could all enjoy your flowers! And we decided to make you these bouquets as a gift. We arranged them especially for you!”

It took Mrs. Greene a very long moment to understand what was going on.
“My garden’s grown that big?” she asked.
“Yes, Mrs. Greene, Sheila said. “It’s grown straight up to the 64th floor!”
“You don’t say?”

Mrs. Greene looked startled. But then, as she began to look carefully at the children’s sweet faces, Mrs. Greene suddenly smiled, and felt something she hadn’t felt in many, many years, joy.

“Would you like to come in?” she asked softly. “I don’t have much to offer, but you’re more than welcome to come join me in my garden. I could tell you the stories of where each of these flowers first came from.”
Sheila was delighted, and so she and her mother, along with the other kids and their parents, joined Mrs. Greene in her garden.

“These right here are peonies from my grandmother’s house. Oh, I can still remember planting them with her. I remember the day she gave me a cutting. She told me if I took good care of it, it would never die... Oh, and these flowers were from the house I grew up in, before I had to go to the orphanage after both my parents grew ill. I remembered what my grandmother said, though, so I took cuttings from each flowering plant I loved best... And these flowers, these right here were from my first job at the candy shop. Oh, was that owner kind… I’ll never forget the way he used to let me take home whatever candy I wanted and never made me pay. Not once. And these flowers, these were from the garden of the house I lived in with my husband, before he was sent off to fight in the war and never came back…”

On and on Mrs. Greene shared as if she never shared before, and the children and their parents sat listening, mesmerized.

“I’m so sorry you’ve had so much sadness,” Celia Tolliver said, her eyes tearing.
“Thank you, dear. Funny, I don’t think I realized this until just now, but I suppose I was trying to take something beautiful with me from every place I’d ever been, so I could look back and remember the beauty and not just the heartache.”
“Thank you for sharing your memories with us,” Sheila said.

“You’re welcome, said Mrs. Greene. Thank you for helping me realize how much more meaningful it is to share what’s precious, instead of trying so hard to keep it safe just for myself.”
“We’ll take good care of your flowers, Mrs. Greene. And we’ll make sure to keep sharing your memories.”

“I know you will. And you’ll be making your own memories too!”
After that day, Mrs. Greene began to grow as many friends in her high-rise apartment building as she grew flowers. And they visited often and took the time to share with each other the things that mattered most.


 

Saturday 8 July 2023

LIFE REALLY DOES HAPPEN WHEN WE TALK TO STRANGERS



LIFE REALLY DOES HAPPEN WHEN WE TALK TO STRANGERS (author unknown)

Have you ever had a conversation with a total stranger and later realize that person must have been sent by God?
That's what happened to me the other day. I was pushing my shopping cart filled to the brim with children and food through the store when an older gentleman approached us. He saw the kids and couldn't resist coming over to talk to us. He carried on about how cute they were and asked them several questions. Thankfully, my kids were cooperative and answered his questions. After chatting with us briefly, he went on his way.
A little while later, he made a beeline back to us.
He looked straight at me and said, "I want to tell you something." He then began a story about when his son was five years old. His son had asked him to build a birdhouse. He told him no because he was really busy with "important" things for work.
He watched his disappointed five year old slump off without crying or making a scene, and suddenly he felt terrible for breaking his son's heart. He called his son back to him. Together they went to the store to buy the materials and they built the birdhouse.
To make a long story short (he said), 40 years later, he can't remember anything about the work he was doing or what made it so important.
Then, he looked me in the eyes and said, "But we still have that birdhouse." My eyes immediately flooded with tears. Even though I'm with my kids for the majority of our days, I don't always devote myself fully to them. I half heartedly do activities with them. I fuss at them. I get distracted by chores and my to do list and my phone.
This man may never know just how much he stopped me in my tracks, helped me adjust my priorities, and inspired me to slow down and be more intentional with my family.
God puts people in our path to help show us the way. The next time a stranger comes to you with something to say, be open to the message. It might change your life!
Life happens when we talk to strangers!

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MY DEAR PAPA


MY DEAR PAPA

by Caitlin Fladager 

Dear dad, aka “papa”.
When I first found out I was pregnant at 18, I wasn’t scared to tell anyone. Only you.
I wasn’t scared to tell friends, other family, or the internet. I was scared to tell you.
I still remember sitting on my bed with mom, when you walked in and asked why I was crying. I could barely get out the words “I’m pregnant dad..” before you hung your head in disappointment, and stormed off downstairs. Mom hugged me and told me that you would come around.
I gave you a few minutes, and I walked downstairs. You were sitting on the couch. You looked so mad. I couldn’t find the words to say anything to you, so I just sat down beside you, and laid my head down on your shoulder, as I felt tears drip down my face.
Out of all the people I had to tell, that I was pregnant, I was most scared to tell you. And you were definitely the most disappointed.
But, when I came home the next day, and I saw you clearing out the guest room, for your soon to be granddaughter, I knew everything would be okay.
Six months later, you took me to every doctors appointment, when my boyfriend was working.
Seven months later, you helped me pick out a bringing home baby outfit.
Eight months later, you were there through my labour, and reminding me I could do this.
When she was born, you wouldn’t let her go. She became your world, along with me.
Six years later, you, papa, are my daughters world. She wants to call you every chance she gets. She wants to see you every time we go anywhere.
I know that out of everyone, you were the most disappointed when I announced I was pregnant at 18, but my daughter and I, couldn’t imagine doing life without you. And I know that you couldn’t imagine doing life without my daughter.
You two needed each other, even if you didn’t know it back then.

Thursday 6 July 2023

THE WOMAN IN THE FREEZER

 


THE WOMAN IN THE FREEZER
(author unknown)

A lady worked at a meat distribution factory.
One day, when she finished with her work
schedule, she went into the meat cold room
(Freezer) to inspect something, but in a
moment of misfortune, the door closed and
she was locked inside with no help in sight.
Although she screamed and knocked with
all her might, her cries went unheard as no
one could hear her. Most of the workers had
already gone, and outside the cold room it's
impossible to hear what was going on
inside.
Five hours later, whilst she was at the verge
of death, the security guard of the factory
eventually opened the door.
She was miraculously saved from dying that
day.
When she later asked the security guard
how he had come to open the door, which
wasn't his usual work routine.
His explanation: "I've been working in this
factory for 35 years, hundreds of workers
come in and out every day, but you're one of
the few who greet me in the morning and
say goodbye to me every night when leaving
after work. Many treat me as if I'm invisible.
Today, as you reported for work, like all
other days, you greeted me in your simple
manner 'Hello'. But this evening after
working hours, I curiously observed that I
had not heard your "Bye, see you
tomorrow".
Hence, I decided to check around the
factory. I look forward to your 'hi' and 'bye'
every day because they remind me that I am
someone.
By not hearing your farewell today, I knew
something had happened. That's why I was
searching every where for you."
Be humble, love and respect those around
you. Try to have an impact on people who
cross your path every day, you never know
what tomorrow will bring..
Stay Blessed.


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Tuesday 4 July 2023

I NEED THE COMPANY

 



I NEED THE COMPANY
(author unknown)

I had spent an hour in the bank with my dad, as he had to transfer some money. I couldn't resist myself & asked...

''Dad, why don't we activate your internet banking?''

''Why would I do that?'' He asked...

''Well, then you wont have to spend an hour here for things like transfer.
You can even do your shopping online. Everything will be so easy!''
I was so excited about initiating him into the world of Net banking.
He asked ''If I do that, I wont have to step out of the house?

''Yes, yes''! I said. I told him how even grocery can be delivered at door now and how amazon delivers everything!

His answer left me tongue-tied.

He said ''Since I entered this bank today, I have met four of my friends, I have chatted a while with the staff who know me very well by now.
You know I am alone...this is the company that I need. I like to get ready and come to the bank. I have enough time, it is the physical touch that I crave.
Two years back I got sick, The store owner from whom I buy fruits, came to see me and sat by my bedside and cried.

When your Mom fell down few days back while on her morning walk. Our local grocer saw her and immediately got his car to rush her home as he knows where I live.

Would I have that 'human' touch if everything became online?
Why would I want everything delivered to me and force me to interact with just my computer?

I like to know the person that I'm dealing with and not just the 'seller'. It creates bonds of Relationships.

Does Amazon deliver all this as well?'''
Technology isn't life..

Spend time with people .. Not with devices.
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Monday 3 July 2023

SLOW DOWN AND BE PATIENT WITH LIFE

 



SLOW DOWN AND BE PATIENT WITH LIFE
(author unknown)
If You Are Looking For Wealth, Somebody else Is Looking For Health.
If You Are Looking For Health, Somebody else Just Died.
If You are Looking For Power, Somebody else Has Acquired And Used it, And he/she is now Powerless.
Each Time You Drive A Fancy Car, Somebody, Somewhere Is Dying In A Car Crash.
Each Time a New Mansion Springs From The Earth, A New Grave is Dug Below The Earth.
Each Time You Throw Away A Morsel, Somebody else somewhere is Searching For a Morsel To Survive.
Each Time You Throw Food Into Dustbin, Someone else Is Looking For Remnant To Eat.
Each Time You Ask God To Promote or Change Your Present Situation, Someone else Is Praying to Get To Your Present Situation.
For Each Smile On The Planet, There's a Drop Of Tear In Another Place On The Planet.
For Each Celebration Of Childbirth, There Are Tears of Burial.
Each Time You Urinate Or Drink Water, Remember Someone Is Using Pipe For The Same Purpose.
So Always Be Thankful.
Think of the Goodness u have rather than the vanities u long for,..

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