Tuesday 26 December 2023

MY $130 RING SET



"MY $130 RING SET"
(author unknown)

"My husband doesn't have a lot, neither of us do. We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost 2 years of dating we decided that we couldn't wait anymore, so we didn't.

I wasn't even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend, but he wouldn't have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That's what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.

While we were purchasing my rings, however, another lady who was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us. She said, "Y'all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic." When she said that I watched my now husband's face fall. He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again "Are you sure you'll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?" He was so upset at the idea of not making
me happy enough and me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn't cost enough money or weren't flashy enough.

I said, "It isn't the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that is." We bought the rings and left.

Y'all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gum ball machine ring. When did our nation fall so far as to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ in jewellery and makes a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I'm not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate to love??
My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn't afford a piece of jewellery. He was afraid that the love I had for him would pale because he couldn't afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.

But here I am though, Court-House married, $130 ring set, the love of my life by my side, and happier than I could ever imagine."

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THIS PRESENT MOMENT by Tahlia Hunter


"THIS PRESENT MOMENT"
by Tahlia Hunter

And on the path toward healing,
remind yourself
each and every day
that where you presently find yourself,
you will not remain forever
but that peace is found
not in replaying the past
nor in envisioning the future
but in surrendering fully to the present,
for out of this present moment
future experiences of peace and joy are made possible.
And in this moment,
all past versions of yourself are integrated
and your future self is created
and you may discover
a freedom that exists
beyond where you have been
and where you are going
that comes from being completely immersed in the now.

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THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU by Becky Hemsley 2023


"THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU"
by Becky Hemsley 2023

I think the best thing someone can say to you is not necessarily
“you are beautiful, you are funny, you are generous”
or anything like that.
No. I think the best thing someone can say to you is
“thank you for being you”.
An acknowledgement that simply you being yourself
is something they are thankful for.
Because whilst your actions -
your beauty, your wit, your generosity -
might indeed be the reason for their thanks,
“thank you for being you”
says that you alone are enough.
More than enough.
That you alone are a blessing to them.
With no expectation going forward
to be beautiful or funny or generous.
Or anything else.
But to simply be you.
Yourself.
Knowing that you are not defined by one wonderful thing you do.
But rather appreciated for the thousands of wonderful things
that you are.

Becky Hemsley 2023
Fabulous artwork by Des Brophy Art

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Sunday 24 December 2023

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS


"RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS"
(author unknown)

As she stood in front of her 5th-grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.
Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy, and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant.
It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's, and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.
At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.
Teddy's first-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners... he is a joy to be around.."
His second-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well-liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness, and life at home must be a struggle."
His third-grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."
Teddy's fourth-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."
By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper That he got from a grocery bag Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume.. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.
On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets.."
A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling* her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.
Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.
Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honours. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favourite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.
Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favourite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer.... The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.
The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom.
Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.
They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for* believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference."
Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."
(For you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist Hospital in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)
Warm someone's heart today. . . pass this along. I love this story so very much, I cry every time I read it. Just try to make a difference in someone's life today? tomorrow? Just "do it".
Random acts of kindness, I think they call it?
"Believe in Angels, then return the favour."

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ANTISIPATION by Becky Hemsley 2023


"ANTISIPATION"
by Becky Hemsley 2023

I have maintained for a long time now that Christmas Eve trumps Christmas Day. For as long as I can remember I have found it more exciting.
It's the anticipation isn't it?
Anticipation heightens everything. It's what gives us that extra excitement and giddiness, worry and nerves. It gives us that adrenaline rush.
Because as soon as the actual event itself begins, we know it is going to end. And whilst we enjoy it as it happens, it can feel like we're winding down rather than ramping up.
We ramp up when we want to take off and fly - that's why it feels so exciting, exhilarating, scary.
Some people are full of excitement today.
Some are full of nerves.
Some are feeling giddy
and some are feeling scared.
But whatever you are feeling,
let yourself feel it.
If you want to drape yourself in Christmas lights and eat, drink and be merry,
then do it.
If you want to retreat from the lights for a while and spend some time reflecting and remembering, then do it.
If you want to keep busy so that tomorrow you can rest and relax, then do it.
Anticipation is there to be felt.
It's the momentum that keeps us going, keeps us flying, when otherwise we might fall.
Tomorrow we might hit the ground.
Some might descend slowly to the softest of landings and some might hit the ground hard.
So the best thing we can do today is let the anticipation keep us going.
Let us strap it to our backs and let it guide us.
Let it be our parachute.
*****
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THE CHAPTERS OF LIFE by Tahlia Hunter


"THE CHAPTERS OF LIFE"
by Tahlia Hunter

"You would not open a book
to a random page
and read a few lines
and think to yourself
"These few words that I am reading
define the entire story."
Yet, this is what you do, my dear,
when you let a single experience
of failure or rejection
define you
and your story.
And so there are times in your life
where you must learn to view your life as a story
and zoom out from your current experience,
and remind yourself
"This present phase
that I find myself in
is merely a passing chapter
and I must continue living,
for the story must go on
and in every story,
every problem
will eventually find its solution
or its ending.
And though this present chapter
may be difficult,
it is the chapters of struggle and heartache
that pave the way for chapters of victory and triumph
and make the story worth reading
and there is a future version of me in the story
that is currently experiencing success
that only exists
because the current version of me
was brave enough to fail
and experience rejection and disappointment."
And though you may not control
the events of the story,
always remember
that you are the narrator,
and you may choose to write it as you wish
trusting that some stories
may only be understood retrospectively
for the same chapters
can be interpreted and told differently
when seen through the eyes of the future
rather than the eyes of the past."


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THE MASTER OF DEATH by Becky Hemsley 2023


"THE MASTER OF DEATH"
by Becky Hemsley

They say that we can’t live forever
And that no one’s a master of death
That it’s just an inevitability and
That it comes to us all in the end
They say death’s conclusive and final,
That when something is gone it is gone
But if they believe that is true, well then
I’m afraid they could not be more wrong
‘Cause I feel the way that my soul is in flight
Every time that you think about me
And the way that my spirit lights up like a star
When you talk of how we used to be
Because, just like a fable or story or tale
That is over a hundred years old
Then I’ll be awoken and brought back to life
Every time that my story is told
So tell all my stories and sing out my name
And bask in my memory’s glow
And you’ll realise there’s something that lives beyond death
That refuses to give up and go
See, death might think it is the master of life
But there’s something more powerful yet
Because love has the power to help me live on
Because love
is the master of death
*****
'Master of Death' is from When I Am Gone

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Saturday 23 December 2023

DON'T BE JUST ANOTHER SLAVE THIS CHRISTMAS


"DON'T BE JUST ANOTHER SLAVE THIS CHRISTMAS" (author unknown)
1. Refuse to miss out on enjoying your day. Play with your kids, snuggle on the sofa, drink eggnog if that’s your thing. I mean, it’s super gross, but to each his own. Watch cheesy Hallmark movies. Grab a dice game out of the closet. Beat your family in charades. Get your booty out of the kitchen. Leave the dishes. Let the pots and pans wait. Soak them till tomorrow, they’ll be fine, and soak in all the merry you can. Christmas doesn’t only belong to everyone else. It belongs to you too.
2. Refuse to feel guilty. Didn’t wrap all the presents? Didn’t hang all the lights? Didn’t cook all 27 side dishes? Don’t you dare feel guilty about it. Don’t you dare let it get you down. Don’t you dare let it steal your joy. Not for one second. Nobody even likes that weird green Jell-O stuff anyways. I promise, nobody will notice if it’s not there. You can’t do it all, so do what’s most important.
3. Refuse to let stress take centre stage. There is SO STINKING MUCH to do on Christmas. And as women, we tend to put ourselves in charge of more than our fair share. Decorations, gifts, wrapping, cooking, cleaning, travel schedules, uncomfortable phone calls with mother-in-laws about whose year it is to host. It’s easy to let the anxiety of the season run away with your cheer. Hold onto peace like its the last sip of your vanilla latte from Starbucks. We want our kids, our families and our friends to remember happy holidays, not a frazzled momma. Christmas is a wonderful reason to give to those in need, to enjoy time with your family and a terrible time to drive yourself into a mental and physical exhaustion.
4. Refuse to say yes to everything. You’re a human. You’re allowed to have some limits. You’re allowed to have some boundaries. You’re allowed to politely decline now and then. Time is a limited resource. Time is a precious commodity. Treat your time like it matters, because it does.
5. Refuse to allow anyone else to tell you what your Christmas should be. You’re allowed to be sad this time of year. You’re allowed to miss your family if you’re celebrating somewhere far away. You’re allowed to grieve loved ones who have died. You’re allowed to spend Christmas on the beach if that’s what’s best for you. You’re allowed to spend Christmas at home with only your immediate family. You’re allowed to decorate with 10 bajillion Christmas lights and you’re allowed not to listen to a single Christmas song. You’re allowed to have pizza for Christmas dinner. You’re allowed to do something entirely new and untested. You’re in charge of your Christmas. You’re in charge of what your holidays will be. Make them holidays that bring you peace. And joy. And time to cry. And time to laugh. And time to be surrounded with loved ones. And time to be alone. And time to reflect. And time to not have a care in the world.
6. Refuse to believe the only way to make Christmas memorable is to buy everything for everyone. The holidays aren’t about going into debt, or creating a financial burden that will follow you around for the next 12 months, or kids getting anything and everything they lay their eyes on. They may crave stuff now, but that stuff won’t mean anything to them down the road. They won’t remember the toys you bought, but they will remember the time you spent with them. They will remember hot chocolate with loads of marshmallows, cuddling on the couch watching cheesy Christmas movies, and laughing around the kitchen table playing games. They will remember cousins, making a mess decorating gingerbread houses, and dancing in the kitchen to “All I Want for Christmas is You.” They will remember waking up to watch the parade on tv, candlelit Christmas Eve service, and creating new family traditions. They will remember handing out homemade cookies to neighbours, giving to those in need, and making light of all the million little things that go wrong on Christmas Day. Memories matter so much more than any toy ever will. Presence matters so much more than any present ever will.
7. Refuse to forget that Jesus is the reason for everything. He is the heart of the season, and hopefully he is the heart of everything we do, everything we give, and everywhere we go. The angels and the wise men and the shepherds all gathered around Him in that tiny stable so long ago. Gathering around Him is the only tradition we truly need to believe in this December.

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"BABY STEPS" by Becky Hemsley

"BABY STEPS" by Becky Hemsley We have to stop thinking that we’ve failed every time we fall. When babies are learning to walk, we ...